Beaverton Portland Divorce Mediator Matthew House, J.D.: Child-Centered Divorce Without Attorneys
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  • What is Divorce Mediation?
    • Summary of the Process
    • Components of the Process
    • Parenting Education Classes
    • Mediation Sessions
    • Marital Settlement Agreement and Divorce Forms
    • Post-Divorce
  • Matthew House
    • About Matthew
    • Ohana Means Family
  • Five Professionals in One
    • Family Law Mediator
    • Family Law Financial Analyst
    • Parenting Plan Coach
    • No-Cost Services to Kids and Teens
    • Notary Public
  • Topics to Address in Mediation
    • Income Analysis
    • Budgets
    • Child-Related Decisions >
      • Child Custody
      • Parenting Plan
      • Child Support: Minor Children
      • Child Support: College Students
    • Spousal Support
    • Asset Division >
      • Real Property
      • Bank Accounts
      • Retirement Accounts >
        • Defined Contribution Plans (401)(k), etc. >
          • 401(k) Accounts
          • 403(b) Accounts
          • 457(b) Accounts
          • Simplified Employee Pension (SEP)
          • SIMPLE IRA
        • Traditional IRA
        • Roth IRA
        • Government Pensions >
          • Oregon PERS >
            • PERS Tier One
            • PERS Tier Two
            • PERS OPSRP
            • PERS IAP
          • FERS
          • Military Retirement
          • Thrift Savings Plan (TSP)
        • Company Pensions
      • Vehicles and Household Goods
      • HSA, FSA, DCAP
      • Stocks and Stock Options >
        • Brokerage Accounts & Stocks
        • Restricted Stock Units
        • Employee Stock Ownership Plan
        • Employee Stock Purchase Plan
        • Non-Qualified Stock Options
        • Incentive Stock Options
        • Restricted Stock
      • Whole Life Insurance
      • Savings Bonds
      • Annuities
      • Business Ownership
      • Cryptocurrency and Digital Assets
      • Other Assets
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      • Unsecured Debt
      • Secured Debt
      • Tax Debt
      • Bankruptcy
      • Credit
    • Tax Issues >
      • Filing Status
      • Exemptions and Credits
      • Tax Impact of Decisions
    • Insurance Needs >
      • Whole Life Insurance
  • Teens and Pre-Teens
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Budgets and Living Expenses in an Oregon Divorce: Mediator Matthew House, J.D.

​Most divorce mediation processes require one or more budgets, which Matthew will help you develop.

  • You will need adult budgets and a child-specific budget if at least one joint child is younger than 21.
  • You will need only adult budgets if one or both parties believe that spousal support should be discussed, if you have no joint children younger than 21.

Why it Matters:
  • Both parties need to be able to afford their own expenses and their legal responsibilities to their children.
  • Many parents agree to share certain expenses on a pro rata basis that child support is not expected to cover.
  • Spousal support, if any, is based on one party's need and the other's ability to pay.
  • If the calculated child support amount should be adjusted, the budget will show the reasoning.

Common Mistakes or Oversights:
  • Relying too heavily on the pre-divorce budget, which may not be realistic post-divorce
  • Not averaging expenses that are not incurred on a monthly basis
  • Assuming that each party's expenses for a particular category will be equal​
  • Underestimating irregular or long-term expenses (such as car repairs or home maintenance)
  • Double-counting some expenses that may appear to belong to multiple categories but should be reported only once
  • Misallocating discretionary contributions, such as retirement savings

How Matthew Can Assist You:  In addition to correcting the above mistakes and oversights, Matthew is familiar with the likely costs of post-divorce life. He can also point out where your estimates might be unrealistically high or low.

What to Prepare:  Your intake file will include a budget list for you to complete. You will provide estimates of your anticipated expenses if you are able to do so. Otherwise, Matthew will assist you during your sessions.
If you have already prepared a budget, you're off to a great head start. Matthew will ask you questions that will probably result in some additions or changes to your existing budget to fit within the objectives of the mediation process. You do not need to provide proof of your expenses unless the other  party disputes the estimates, which is unusual. :

What You'll Do In Mediation:
 Matthew can help you craft a budget from scratch if you don't know how to estimate your expenses, or he can help you fill in the gaps in what you have prepared on your own. If your budgeted items exceed your resources, he can help both of you determine how you can modify your budgets to the extent necessary with the least impact to your children.
Matthew House is the only metro Portland mediator who has:a law degree and 20 years of experience as a mediator, Parenting Coach, and mentor providing free services to pre-teens, teens, and young adults; seven years as a K-12 educator; training as a Family Law Financial Analyst; and a Notary commission. 
​Become a client: Please send a brief email to explain your needs:
matthewmhousejd@gmail.com